Over the last five years I have often described my journey with grief as having one foot in Heaven and one on Earth. My faith in Beatrix’s residence there is immutable, and my faith in my Christian belief system is equally strong.
This has made much of my baby-loss journey solitary. The vast number of child grief writers are loss moms themselves, and as such are sensitive to the suffering of newly bereaved mothers. They recall their own dealings with unwelcome religious advice, and because of this most of the more popular bloggers on this subject refrain from making definitive statements about religious practices and death.
We hear vague affirmations of our children becoming angels when they die.
We see images which imply our children are part of the natural world.
We read blog posts about miscarried babies not being ready, and hopefully coming again in a subsequent pregnancy, and we see images of “rainbow” babies wearing clothing implying that they were “chosen” by their sibling in heaven,
These concepts are problematic for those who are Christian because none of them speak about the child-loss experience of the Christian mother.
For the next few weeks, I will be sharing my thoughts on the promises faith has for the grieving mother.
Please join me with comments on how your Christian faith has comforted you. I look forward to hearing from you.