Mediums: Does The Child I Lost Speak Through Them?

Tuesday, March 01, 2016

Last week I wrote a post about the afterlife. Today I'm continuing the conversation, and I wanted to focus on psychics. This is part of a series, so will not be exhaustive regarding Christianity and loss. 

Again -- heavy topic. Not for everyone. If you aren't Christian, this is going to be a bunch of crazy talk to you. If you aren't ready, this may seem cruel to you. Choose wisely.

It may seem innocent to allow ourselves to believe our children are communicating with us through others who claim to have "gifts" which allow them to communicate with "the other side".

Mediums who make this type of claim have become commonplace. They have their own television shows, write bestsellers, etc. We think of them as a fun diversion. We don't often consciously connect them to the occult, however, they definitely fall into that realm. The Bible clearly speaks about the occult in both the OT and NT-- and they are always spoken of negatively.


Do not turn to mediums or seek out spiritists, for you will be defiled by them."   Leviticus 19:31

That's a bold statement. You will be "defiled". It doesn’t really fit in with our modern attitudes either – who thinks of their fellow humans as “defiled”? Do we even use that word anymore? It's so negative... 


This theme continues into the New Testament:

"Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God."   Galatians 5: 19-21


While this seems cliché: when we dip our toes into the stream of mysticism (which communicating with the dead certainly is) the chances of being swept away are much greater than if we had not wandered near the water at all.









We are talking about a presumed relationship with the children we lost, after all. How could we not get swept away when we believe we are communicating with them? 

There is nothing we hunger more deeply for than a connection to our children, but any effort at connection which runs counter to God's promises will always fall short of the connection we receive through the redemptive love of Christ.

We make the decision to pursue after-death theories contrary to His promise because we are attempting to turn the promise into something we have control over. We want to turn our children's absence into something we can manage. We have a difficult time accepting "no" from anyone -- especially a God who has "taken" our child from us.

But does this type of communication make them any less gone?

And how is God's promise honored when we refuse to acknowledge the reality of death?

Death is part of the Christian redemption story. Our entire belief system rests on the truth of the resurrection. The resurrection is meaningless without death. Without it, our religion crumbles and becomes myth. Without death there is no resurrection of the body.

In addition, we will also pass away. Like I detailed in my last post, anything short of heaven means eventual, permanent separation from our children. If we insist our children are still here in the temporal world, we are directly denying the promise of a God who said to the thief on the cross "today you will be with me in paradise". That God promises eternity.... But He promises eternity away from this world.

We also don’t know where/from whom a medium is receiving information from. Because of the power of the internet it would be relatively easy for them to get enough private information about you to make your session seem fruitful…. And that’s the best case scenario – at worst, many teachings indicate that the messages mediums receive are not coming from our lost loved ones, but from supernatural beings who don’t have our best interests at heart.


Last, I can't decline to mention the financial issues involved. The misinformation shared by psychics can be overwhelming to a loss parent. They give us “secret” messages from our babies and help us make the connection we so desperately desire to make with our children. The well of knowledge they share with us could be bottomless -- after all, psychics make a living telling us what we want to hear. The more often we come to them the more lucrative their practice. When they tell us our baby is near and is speaking to us, it is easy to believe this is true, and they hold out the information we seek like a carrot on a stick. We will continue to use our resources to make more visits – resources God has given us to provide for our families and perform acts of charity. Resources we could use to be honoring our babies.

(Psychics also often promote other Counter-Christian practices, which they could encourage us to participate in. The more we open ourselves up to their manipulations the more they will take advantage of our sorrow.... And the farther they will lead us away from trusting in God's plan.)


We are all tempted to look away from the cross. This life seems so long, and the grief is just so deep. 

Just hold on momma. What He's got planned for us is so much better than anything we could imagine ourselves.

Next {and last} portion of this small series will be "All About Angels", about the nature of angels. I'd love to hear what you have to say about this, or any other subject related to grief, child loss, and Christianity.


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